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The Cost of Keeping It Exciting

Jul 02, 2026

More than twenty years ago a family flew me out to watch their three daughters train at an academy, and the most important thing I saw on that trip happened on a court I had no reason to be sitting next to. When the girls I'd come for were off between sessions, I found a spot near a different court and watched a coach work with a young player I took to be his own daughter. They spoke to each other in a language I didn't have, Portuguese I think, so everything I understood about that hour I had to take in through my eyes. I expected, the way you do when you're about to watch someone train at a high level, that the striking thing would be how much was happening. What stayed with me was how little.

They worked on one thing the entire hour. Something in her preparation, the part of the swing that happens before the part anyone watching usually notices. The coach hand-fed her ball after ball, the slow and unglamorous kind of feeding that fills a bucket and empties it and fills it again, and after each one he watched the same narrow piece of what she did. The player was clearly at a level most juniors never reach, which is exactly what made it strange. You'd assume someone that advanced would be doing something advanced. Instead she was doing the simplest thing in the building, over and over, and neither of them showed the smallest sign of wanting to move on to something more interesting.

What made the hour legible to me, even without the language, was the coach's hands. When her preparation came out the way they were working toward, he let the next ball come. When it drifted, he stopped and made a small gesture, his own hand tracing the shape her preparation had actually taken, then a second gesture tracing the shape they were after. He was showing her the gap rather than describing it, putting the difference between what happened and what they wanted into the air between them instead of handing her a sentence she'd have to turn back into a feeling. Then the feeding resumed, and a few balls later it would slip again and they'd stop and do it again, and the patience in it was total. Nothing about the hour felt like something either of them was trying to get through on the way to something better.

The moment I've never forgotten came when someone else walked onto the court and the coach struck up a conversation with them. He kept tossing the whole time, that laborious hand-feeding going on underneath a conversation about something else entirely, his attention divided between the visitor and the bucket. The player didn't drift. His eyes had left her and she stayed exactly where she'd been, inside the same fine task, repeating it with the same care she'd shown when he was locked in on her. That told me more than the drill itself had. The focus had moved into her some time before I ever arrived, and the coach turning away couldn't disturb it, because the work no longer depended on his attention to stay upright. She was the one holding herself to it now.

I drove away from that trip turning it over, because it ran against almost everything I'd watched in the programs I knew. The instinct in the environments I'd come up around, and in most of the ones I'd visited since, was to keep training moving. Change the drill before anyone gets restless, keep the energy up, make sure nobody ends up standing around looking bored. There are real reasons for that instinct, especially with younger kids, and I'm not pretending an hour of hand-tosses is the right prescription for a nine-year-old. But somewhere in the effort to keep development entertaining, we'd quietly decided that boredom was a failure of the session rather than a feature of deep work, and that decision was costing the exact thing the academy court was producing in front of me.

Staying on one fine detail long past the point where it stops being interesting is how a small thing gets rebuilt at the level where it actually lives, underneath conscious thought, in the part of a stroke that fires before the player has time to decide anything. A pattern that deep doesn't move because you visited it for six minutes and came back to it next week. It moves when someone stays conscious and deliberate on it for an uncomfortable length of time, long enough that the new version starts to feel like the default and the old one starts to feel wrong. That requires a tolerance for repetition that looks, from the outside, almost indistinguishable from boredom. The two people inside it aren't bored, because they can both see the thing they're chasing, and watching a fine detail come slowly closer turns into its own kind of absorption once you've trained yourself to find it there.

The hour put no strain on the player or the coach. The only person it would have bored was the one I walked in as, the one still measuring a session by how much was happening in it. What I carried home from a court I wasn't even supposed to be watching was that the depth that develops a high-level player is mostly available to anyone willing to stay on one thing after it stops paying out in novelty, and that our habit of breaking things up to keep them exciting is often the precise reason the fine details never get rebuilt. The willingness to be bored, it turned out, sits much closer to the center of development than anything I'd have put on a schedule to make it look impressive.

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